(Or anyone else who has regular contact with him/her such as a neighbor, friend of the family, extended family member, church member, etc.) My child/teen has RAD. Reactive Attachment Disorder. I wanted you to know what we, his/her family, deals with every day so you can be aware when he/she exhibits these behaviors in your presence. At the end of this letter I will give the link to the Todd Friel video where he talks…
This is the part about adoption that gets me angry faster than any other. When family and friends who have known an adoptive parent for years, or in the case of parents and siblings, their entire lives, and those friends and family allow an adoptive child/teen to cause division. If you could see me sitting here at my computer right now I am scowling at my screen. I’ve just read two stories by amazing adoptive…
I just read a news report out of Utah about a teenage adoptee named Joey who is now in foster care because “multiple families didn’t want him”. Poor Joey. I’m sure before too long someone will step up and rescue the poor orphan teen who only wants a forever family. Honestly, it makes me want to puke. No family is going to spend tens of thousands of dollars to adopt and bring a teen to…
There once was a beautiful and godly woman who had a heart of gold named Mary. Her friends loved her sweet, gentle, and giving spirit. She was single and everyone knew what Mary really wanted was to be married. To be a wife and mother. She prayed continually for a good man to come into her life. Her best friend Jane convinced her to go out on a blind date with someone she thought was…
I started writing this post last week and had to walk away. The original post for Legalized Human Trafficking garnered just a bit of controversial conversation, some of it hard to hear. Comments from other adoptive parents, for those of us still in adoption PTSD mode, comes across as condescending and a little harsh. That, on top of the news that someone close to me died ,was all too much to handle in the moment…
I’ve been away from my computer and blog for awhile now. For those of you working to heal from adoption trauma you’ll understand. It comes in waves sometimes. Out of the blue. Where you can’t think about adoption for one more minute or you might explode, or fall into a pit. The times are getting further apart but they still come. During those times I focus on my family, my business, anything other than something…
I’m 60. It’s weird looking at that number. It seems like such a long time – 60 years. Yet I don’t feel like I’ve lived for 60 years. Then I look back at my life and realize just how much has been packed into it. At the same time I feel far from finished. There is still so much to do! Then I step on the scale. Somehow over the past few years 60 crazy…
A few weeks back I corresponded with a reporter in Ukraine about the corruption happening with adoptions and how good American families are being destroyed. This morning he sent me the link to the first segment of his series of articles that he is writing. The link that I will share will take you to a Ukrainian news site where the article is written in Russian. Here I have translated it best I could through…
If you have read my book (Adoption Combat Zone) you’ll know that towards the end of the book we bailed Viktor out of jail in January 2017 for driving on a suspended license and owing more than $5,000 to three different court jurisdictions. He was in way over his head. This after moving out on his own because he “was a man” and didn’t have to listen to us anymore. Then telling everyone he met…
Genesis 25:21-23 And Isaac prayed to Yahweh for his wife, because she was barren. And Yahweh answered his prayer, and Rebecca his wife conceived. And within the children struggled together, and she said, “If all is right, why am I this way?” So she went to ask Yahweh, and Yahweh said to her, “Two nations are in your womb, and two peoples shall be separated from your body. And one people shall be stronger than…